I’ve lost a few things that are not forgotten.

The Ring

The very first thing that I can remember losing was my Grandma’s diamond wedding ring. I was only 14 years old. What in the world was she doing gifting a precious diamond wedding ring to her 14 year old granddaughter, anyway?

This was not the first time that this wedding ring had been lost. Grandma was an avid and master gardener. Her yard was filled with fragrant and beautiful blossoms and a lawn that she hand picked the weeds from on her hands and knees. The garden was filled with bird song. She loved those birds as though they were her own children.

One time she lost the ring herself. She didn’t know where but lamented it’s loss deeply. On one lucky day, Grandpa was helping her pull up the spent plants, while they prepared the garden for winter, and pulled up the ring clinging to the roots of one of the petunias. You can see why that ring was even more precious to her than just a wedding ring.

It hurt so bad having to confess that I’d lost it. Grandma and I were as thick as thieves. She was the keeper of my secrets that she took to her grave. I could have moved myself into her tiny house, hook line and sinker, and never looked back. I had to content myself with spending weekends with her. Though she only lived around the block from us I could never get enough of her sweet presence.

I first confessed to Mom that while swinging in the park the ring had come off and I couldn’t find it anywhere. Mom was not one who would soften the blow by telling Grandma about my foolishness. I had to face up to it on my own. “What in the world was I doing wearing that ring anyway”, she chided me.

I think it was too hard for me to hold my Grandma’s reaction in my memories. My Grandma was not one to ever be mad or to express her anger, if she ever was, I can’t remember.

To know that I had hurt and disappointed Grandma was enough punishment for me. I still cry over that ring. I wonder who might have found that it. I wish it had been me.

The Rug

The next thing I remember losing is a hand woven chief’s rug that was given to us by Jack’s Aunt Helen. She was married to his Uncle Hank. Aunt Helen (nee Phinney) was a Nez Perce, a descendant of Chief Joseph. It was evident at the Pow Wows we attended with her, that she was highly regarded among the tribes of the Northwest Territory.

This rug was passed down to her through her family and then she gifted it to Jack, my husband, who she dearly loved. Aunt Helen was fierce. She was diminutive yet strong. One did not cross her in deed or in word.

Aunt Helen’s face was round and flat and colored a soft brown. She always wore a dress and had steel grey hair cut short, and she walked the earth as though she had a specific purpose in mind to her walking. And no doubt she did.

I kind of feared yet respected Aunt Helen, and yet you could feel her love. Her love felt a bit like ownership, possessiveness. Her home on Johnson Creek road was a treasure trove of Indian artifacts. Her yard was a secret garden if there ever was one. It didn’t surprise me at all that she entrusted Jack with this precious rug. He was family though only by marriage. She had a family of her own which I’m sure she gave many gifts.

One year we were moving out to the Columbia River Gorge, the land of the Indians. Now, the Gorge is home to the Confederate Tribes of the Warm Springs, the Yakima Nation, the Nez Perce Tribe and the Cofederated Tribes of the Umatilla Indian Reservation.

We obviously, not so carefully, stashed the rug in the bed of the pickup. Somewhere along the Washington side of the river, the rug blew out of the truck. Did we realize when we were unpacking that the rug was missing or did it take us some time before we realized that the rug was no longer with us. I can’t remember.

I wonder all the time who might have found that rug. One thing I know for sure is that unless they did some research they have no idea what a treasure they have in their possession.

I think of that rug quite often and mourn our carelessness. The only thing that would make me happy is if a member of one of the tribes had found the rug and perhaps had found its rightful owners. Maybe they might have celebrated that the spirit/s had returned that rug.

The Tapestry

The next thing I lost was a Franklin Mint Tapestry that my mom bought me at no small cost. This is a Tapestry titled, The Royal Hunt, designed by Marc Waymel for Franklin Mint.

According to some on Google, the tapestry can be seen in a scene from the series, Outlander.

The tapestry can now be purchased online from several different websites for around $200 to $300. For years now I’ve been wanting to buy one online. Maybe this is the year.

In the year 2000, I moved to Los Angeles to get my master’s degree in History focusing on folklore and mythology. I packed up everything I owned and put it in a storage unit. That was my first mistake.

I rolled up my tapestry with the hanging rod and slid it down into a CD rack. It fit perfectly. My second mistake is that I didn’t think carefully about the construction of the unit. One could climb on top of the storage areas and the only covering/roof was chicken wire. This storage unit was inside of one of those really large buildings that have multiple floors with multiple units on every floor. I thought everything was safe.

When I returned 2 years later to unpack my unit and bring everything in to my new house, I realized the tapestry was missing. Coincidentally, I was moving Mom in with me. There was no way I could hide the absence of the tapestry. I didn’t wait until she asked and I confessed. That was a really sad day for me. Mom didn’t have much money as a retired administrative nurse and this was a huge loss to us both.

I’ve now lived without the tapestry for more than 20 years, 23 years as a matter of fact. I’ve never quit missing this tapestry and think of it all the time. I wish I knew which tapestry out there was mine.

Some that are for sale say “some light fading or some wear and tear” but mine was perfect when I put it into my storage unit. Should I risk buying one knowing that perhaps I’m getting one that won’t s assuage my sadness over losing the tapestry? Or should I just let it go and enjoy the fact that Mom bought this for me and it’s in my memory now forever?

Who has my tapestry that my mom gave me out of love? I don’t like that you have it. It still makes me a bit angry that you climbed up on top of other people’s storage units and looked down on our personal belongings and thought that you had the right to steal things that perhaps have great value to us. I hope that every time you look at my tapestry you feel guilty. I suppose you sold it immediately thinking you’d get a small fortune. I hope that the memory of your theivery haunts you to this day.

The Photos

And then there was The Polio Poster photos. I wish Mom was still alive for me to ask some questions about these photos.

In the photos I am in an arm brace and wearing a beautiful, cotton, purple and yellow dress with purple pearl buttons. My blonde hair was in soft, long curls. I was just 5 years old and I was a victim of the virus.

There was also featured in the glossy photos, a famous actress, a chimpanzee and a huge television camera. If memory serves me right, I think on the side of the camera were the letters for KOIN TV in Portland, Oregon… or was it KPTV, another TV station.

I know the photos were being taken to feature in polio posters and I was to be a poster child. This was probably in 1953 or ’54. I had contracted polio before the polio vaccine was distributed. The March of Dimes, in particular, raised a campaign against the epidemic.

My photographs were not chosen for the campaign. I think I wasn’t “crippled” enough. Looking at the posters from that era, they featured mainly children who were in leg braces and crutches. The posters were created to generate sympathy and therefore donations for children who were victims of infantile paralysis and to promote the vaccine.

However, we received the original photographs from that time and I should be happy that I wasn’t “crippled enough”.

For all my life I looked at those photographs but at some point they disappeared. I have all of the old family photographs except for these. Being a researcher, I have looked at all of the obvious places that might have them archived. No such luck.

Postscript

Postscipt: The claim is that research to find a vaccine for poliomyelitis was never used on chimpanzees.